Diving into the world of role-playing is not as scary as it looks. It is completely safe, and anyone can do it. So, let’s find out more about BDSM role-plays, how to stay safe, and what scenarios you can try.
What is BDSM roleplay?
The world of BDSM activities is a wondrous place. At times it seems like nothing is off-limits, which can be quite exciting. As roleplay is one of the primary things within this community, it’s only natural that we talk about it. However, keep in mind that roleplay isn’t exclusive to BDSM. Many vanilla couples try basic roleplay sex to spice up their sex lives.
On the other hand, think of BDSM roleplay as living out your wildest sexual fantasies. It’s an activity during which all of your kinks come to life. No matter how dangerous your fantasy might seem, these plays are completely safe. They don’t even have to be done in person. This is especially good considering the times we’re living in. Everything can be done virtually, which is another one of roleplay’s charms.
For this to happen, you’ll need one or multiple partners, some costumes (depending on the play), and a nice place to do it at. You can do it in private or in public — it doesn’t really matter. Nobody is going to know what’s happening anyway. If you’ve ever wanted to be someone or something else, this is an activity that not only allows but welcomes it.
Different kinds of BDSM role-play scenarios
Maybe you’ve always wanted to have sex with a firefighter or pick up a stranger at a bar but never had the courage to. Luckily for you, role-playing is the answer. What sex scenes you’re going to play out depends on both you and your partner. It’s essential to have their consent because if they’re not having fun, you won’t either.
If your imagination isn’t as good as you would like it to, you can pick up plenty of inspiration from your favorite porn. C’mon now; we all watch it. In case that doesn’t help either, we have some ideas for you.
Considering role-play is usually about doing something forbidden, our initial thought goes out to the teacher and student plays. We’ve all had a hot teacher we wanted to bang or be dominated by. Setting the scene for this one is easy because homeschooling is a thing, so it doesn’t need to be done in a classroom.
The same applies to if you wanted to have sex with your French maid or hot boss. There are lots of popular boss and secretary scenarios. If you want to be really risky, you can really do it at the workplace. However, unless you have your own office, this is unlikely to happen.
Some of the more uncommon plays would be humans and gods, humans and animals, as well as stepchildren and step-parents and anything else no one sane would try in real life. Everyone has a different secret fantasy. We don’t judge here.
The players in role play: Tops vs. bottoms
Let’s talk about tops, bottoms, and switches. Did you notice that essentially every play is about a person in power and their subordinate? It’s easy to conclude that role-play involves domination and submission. Every play will have a “top” or dominant partner in charge. They can give orders and will likely play the roles of bosses, masters, teachers, etc.
On the other hand, no play can be complete without a bottom. After all, someone has to follow the orders too. Bottoms are there to be submissive. They can choose if they want to be bratty about the way they take orders. At the end of the day, they will have to submit.
Lastly, a switch is someone who enjoys good power play. The roles constantly reverse, and that’s what’s exciting to most people. Plays that are perfect for switches are stripper and client because they can both be in charge of the situation at any point.
Why do people like it?
There are multiple reasons why anyone would be into plays like these. Most of the time, people lead simple lives. Maybe they have a 9–5 job, and every single day looks the same. Additionally, maybe they’re too shy to explore or try anything, so they’d rather play it out with a partner they trust. The reasons are endless.
On the other hand, some people are just kinky. They love to take risks, try something new, wear some costumes, and play around. Many people like to play with positions of power too. They could be sick of being in charge all day long, so they want someone to submit to. The same exact reason why collars are very popular with kinksters, and can easily be purchased from websites like lovegasm.
Whatever the reason may be, these plays are fun, and everyone should try them at least once. They will definitely bring something new to the table, and it’s the kind of excitement you haven’t felt before. When you do it with a partner you trust, it’s not hard to relax and open up about your fantasies.
Safewords, contracts, and other safety measures
Finally, let’s talk about safety. People usually have a misconception about the BDSM community that makes them believe everything is risky. All of the activities done are absolutely safe. Yes, even when pain is involved. Kinksters within this community make it their mission to uphold a certain standard of safety. That includes having safewords, signing contracts, asking as many questions as possible before doing anything.
Safewords are there to allow the submissive a chance to stop the whole play. They can do that for any reason, including being uncomfortable, scared, or simply changing their mind. The safeword chosen is usually something that doesn’t belong in the play that’s taking place.
Contracts are there to allow partners to give consent and set healthy boundaries. We’re not talking about legal contracts, but people treat them as if they are. Certain rules are set, and both parties should try their hardest to respect them. So, before a play begins, there are a number of things people go through to ensure their safety.
Conclusion
BDSM and role-playing with your partner aren’t something you should run away from. Plus, you don’t even need to be a part of the community to try it. Vanilla couples do it all the time, and so can you if you decide to be more sex positive. All you need is a partner you trust and some role-play ideas to let the games begin.
